My Relationship Is Stalled And I Need To Break Up

Are feeling that your relationship is stalled and you need to break up with your partner? Before you make this decision you need to spend some time really thinking it through. Many times people are not willing to put forth the effort to make a relationship work.

I am not telling you to stay in a bad relationship, but I am telling you to analyze the whole situation before you make a decision. Sometimes we act before thinking and then regret what we have done.

It seems that so many relationships fall apart and more than half of all marriages end in divorce. It does make you wonder what is happening - do people simply fall out of love? Is that possible? You hear people say that they “love” their partner, but they are not “in love” with them.

When you first begin a relationship, everything is new and wonderful. You don’t see any of your new partner‘s faults - the fireworks are bursting. It’s exciting and fun. You think it will be this way forever. But the truth is, this can not and does not last forever. After a while the “fireworks” start to fizzle. I think it is at this point that the relationship starts to stall and people feel they need to break up. Sometimes this happens fairly quickly and sometimes a relationship lasts awhile before it tones down.

What you need to realize is that this is going to happen in every relationship that you have. If you continually feel the need to break up when the “fireworks” are stalled, you will never have a lasting relationship. If you wish to have a lifetime partner, you must put some work into your relationships. Relationships require some compromise on both sides.

When your relationship is stalled and you are thinking about breaking up, you should take some time by yourself in quiet solitude and really think all of this through. Maybe this person isn’t the right one for you, but maybe they are. If you rush into a breakup without taking the necessary time to find out, you could be breaking up with the love of your life.

Try to visualize how your life will be without this person. Would you be happier? Would you miss them? What would you be doing instead? Will you be lonely? How will it change your life?

Is it possible to talk to this person about how you feel the relationship is stalled and that you may need to breakup? Could you have an honest and open discussion with them? Do you think it would help? Is it possible that the problems could be worked out?

You have to do what you think is the best for your life. Your happiness is what counts. Do what is right for you, but don’t rush it. Take plenty of time to figure out what you really want and what will make you happy.

When you save the relationship or decide to break up, you will know that you gave it the proper consideration and did the right thing.

If you decide that the relationship is permanently stalled and you do need to break up, be honest with the other person. Breakups always are painful, but it helps when both parties express their true feelings without blaming the other.