Overcoming Low Self Esteem And Building Self Confidence

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By Patti Ann

Overcoming low self esteem can drastically improve your life and bring you the happiness you have been craving. Low self esteem can absolutely ruin every aspect of your life.

When you learn how to overcome low self esteem, you can once again enjoy life and become a confident and self assured person.

Don’t for a moment doubt that you can regain your confidence and overcome your low self esteem. You can do it - the quality of your life depends on it.

Follow the techniques outlined below to help you. Don’t put it off, the longer you wait the worse it will get.

There are many reasons why people have low self esteem. We certainly weren’t born with it. It is caused by our own perception of ourselves.

When the view we have of ourselves is damaged by perceived failures and lack of support from others, this is when our self esteem starts to drop.

This low perception can be caused by people who have spoken unkind words to us over and over again or perhaps by rejection from others. Be assured that there are ways for overcoming low self esteem.

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Overcoming Low Self Esteem And Boosting Your Confidence

People with low self esteem must be careful not to isolate themselves from society. Avoiding social situations is normal when you have low self esteem.

It is quite common to be scared of talking to others because you might say the wrong thing or thinking that people don’t like you. The danger is that loneliness sets in which contributes to depression and low self confidence and shyness.

The first step you must make is to commit to changing the way you think about yourself. No more negative self talk - only positive thinking can turn this around. Think about the person that you would like to be and strive to become that person.

When you change the way you think about yourself you will be pleasantly surprised how the people around you will notice the change. When you act more confident and sure of yourself, other people will begin to respect you and want to be around you.

Always keep the image of the person that you want to be in your mind. Think positive thoughts about yourself and reward yourself when you accomplish even small goals.

Think about all the new friends you will have and all the opportunities that will open up to you. Get motivated and stay motivated. Be proud of the new self confidence that you have.

Begin Socializing To Overcome Low Self Esteem

Start to get back into society by socializing more. Spend more time with people that love you and care about you - such as family and friends. These are the people that will boost you up. When you feel more confident, add more social events.

The more you get out and realize that your fear of rejection is unfounded, the more confident you will become. It is helpful to join groups that have the same common interests as you. You might even think about taking a class. These are great ways to meet new people and raise your self esteem.

Facing your fear of rejection will help you overcome your low self esteem. Put your fear aside and go for it. If you don’t do it, nothing will change. Action is the only way you will be able to change and get rid of those feelings of being unworthy and inadequate.

Overcoming Low Self Esteem With Affirmations

It can be very helpful to use positive affirmations to help you get rid of negative thoughts. When you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, start repeating a positive affirmation over and over in your mind.

When you repeat it enough, your subconscious mind starts to believe that it is true. This is how you turn negative thinking around.

Take some time and write out three or four positive affirmations such as: I’m a happy person; everyone likes to be around me. I’m a wonderful person; everybody loves me. I think only positive thoughts. I am a fun and loving person.

You know the affirmations that will work best for you. Write them down and use them often. It is essential that you stop all negative thoughts of yourself and only think positive thoughts.

Always be kind to yourself. This is the only way you can overcome low self esteem and boost your confidence back up.

Every day do something just for you. An act of kindness directed at yourself - you must first love yourself before anyone else will.

Allow yourself some quiet time each day to reflect on the changes you are making in your life and visualize how your new life will be after overcoming your low self esteem.

Picture how many new friends you will have, how much fun you will have and all of the new opportunities that life will give you.

It is up to you to do it. No one else can do it for you. Don’t put it off any longer. Make a firm commitment for overcoming your low self esteem and improving your quality of life.

You can do anything you set your mind to do. Take the first step and the next ones will be easier.

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Comments To The Overcoming Low Self Esteem Hub

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emilybee Level 5 Commenter 2 months ago

A hub useful for many, many people at one point or another! Great job, voted up.

Ethan D 9 months ago

I am glad that I ran into this hub. I never really thought about these things before, but they are very true and helpful. Thanks for taking the time to help others in need like me, I really appreciate it.

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Cardia Level 2 Commenter 10 months ago

This is such a well written article, and has some very good points in it as well! I myself have confidence issues, especially since recently a supposed 'friend' said something very unkind to me recently. I'm so glad that I found your Hub, and I'll definitely keep it in mind.

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Patti Ann Hub Author 13 months ago

Hi Jesseissac! Thanks - very well put - glad you stopped by.

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jesseissac 13 months ago

Amazing post! Voted for this. Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Plus, the people around the person carrying positive thoughts are usually energized by this type of attitude.

Negative thoughts on the other hand have a sapping effect on other people. Aside from making you look gloomy and sad, negative thoughts can turn a festive gathering into a funeral wake.

A positive attitude attracts people, while a negative attitude repels them. www.livingyourlifebetter.com

Multiman 15 months ago

Good article on self confidence

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Patti Ann Hub Author 15 months ago

Hi Wendy87! Thanks - so glad that you stopped by.

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wendy87 15 months ago

awesome hub voted .. thanks for sharing...

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Goodpal 17 months ago

This is a great topic relevant to most people - even those who don't realize that they are low on self esteem. Trying to keep the mind positive for someone with a negative self-image is a herculean task and a constant struggle.

I got tremendous help from mindfulness meditation and socializing.

Thanks for the great hub.

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Patti Ann Hub Author 18 months ago

Hi Myron! Thanks - I agree with you.

Myron Matthews 18 months ago

Great hub Patti Ann! Self confidence is the key to happiness.

unknown 19 months ago

Nice hub Patti Ann :) .. your hub will gonna helped me a lot.

Im working to over come my low self esteem .. I am shy being with a lot of people around me. Im scared to talk a lot coz Im scared on what they gonna think and say about me. Im getting to conscious on the things that im gonna say and do. I dont wanna get any negative thoughts from them. It kinda makes me melt or something.

Btw , u had a nice hub .. this hub will gonna help me a lot. thank you for making this hub :)

take care and Godbless !

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Patti Ann Hub Author 20 months ago

Hello M Yunas! I am glad that it helped you!

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M Yunas 20 months ago

Thank you for the advices and ideas, i think it is very helpful to me.

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Patti Ann Hub Author 20 months ago

Hello BuildingSelfEsteem! Thanks - glad you stopped by.

Building Self-Esteem 22 months ago

Hi Patty,

I care A LOT about this subject - I even run a website about it. And as you can imagine, I've read a lot of advice on overcoming low self-esteem. But this hub is one of the best places I found on the web, I also love the additional resources under the comments! Keep up the AWESOME work!

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Patti Ann Hub Author 23 months ago

Hi Jasper420! Thanks - I appreciate the nice comment.

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jasper420 Level 3 Commenter 23 months ago

nice hub this is so important to know this stuff i like the way you have written it out so easy to understand and take in thanks

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Patti Ann Hub Author 23 months ago

Hello MrsWa2007! Thanks so much - glad you liked it.

MrsWa2007 23 months ago

Thank you for the time you took to write this. It was good. I loved it.

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Patti Ann Hub Author 2 years ago

It is so true. When you are self confident it changes your whole life.

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Vizey 2 years ago

You have given some of the very nice ideas to increase confidence and self-esteem.hings which are very important in everyone's life, in fact people are nothing without these qualities..nice hub

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Patti Ann Hub Author 2 years ago

I never thought about it that way - you are absolutely right.

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ceciliabeltran 2 years ago

I like your hubs too Patti Ann! I always say your highest potential is found in your greatest suffering. People with low self-esteem is afraid of the capacity of their inner giant to change their lives. Low esteem is usually a sign that an altogether powerful and latent genius is being contained.

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Patti Ann Hub Author 2 years ago

Excellent - I totally agree with you - Self worth is a much better phrase to use.

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vrbmft Level 4 Commenter 2 years ago

Thanks for a great hub. My own contribution here. I have issue with the words self esteem. I have started using the words self worth instead. I have found over the years that self esteem is typically used in the context of one's accomplishments. Okay, now, stand up there and get a hit, and that will increase your self esteem. Get out there and run that mile, and your self esteem will sore. Lose those ten or hundred pounds and that will do wonders for your self esteem. It's all about external accomplishment and not what you referred to when you wrote that we are not born with low self esteem. I believe, you can see it in an infant's face and body, we are born with an innate sense of self worth. We are valuable, precious, worthwhile, not because of anything we accomplish or will accomplish, but just because. That deep sense of worth seems to have disappeared off the face of our society. We value people based on their contribution, so old people, criminals, etc. are expendable. So anywho, I could go on and on here. When we are very little, that sense of worth is enhanced by an abundance of sheer raw feel good experiences, and as we continue to grow old, that sense of worse is enhanced by praciticing what you wrote about. There is also an important spiritual component as well, and I think we all yearn for something beyond ourselves and I think that is innate as well. I happen to believe there is a God beyond us and that is where ultimately our self worth points us.

Anywho, looking forward to reading more of your blogs.

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Patti Ann Hub Author 2 years ago

Thanks for all the great comments. I also feel it is a very important topic that many people need to address.

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Linda Myshrall Level 1 Commenter 2 years ago

Terrific hub, Patti Ann! I imagine it will help many people. I will take the liberty of forwarding it to a relative who is struggling right now.

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Stacie L Level 4 Commenter 2 years ago

an important message, especially for today's young women =)

trose 2 years ago

Well done! This is such am important message. I see there are more hubs on this topic you have written. Can't wait to read them!

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